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About Sexual Addiction

About Sexual Addiction

Sexual addiction is, like most addictions, a complex matter, filled with interlinked causes, effects, and triggers that, one way or another, can lead to some self-destructive behaviors. Much like the heavy use of alcohol or prescription pills, a great deal of sexual activity in one’s life is not inherently dangerous or destructive, but much like alcohol and medications, there is indeed such a thing as too much of a good thing. Exactly where to draw the line between healthy sexual activity and self-destructive addiction is not always a cut and dried matter. Usually, it only becomes clear one has crossed the line after they have gone so far over that line that it becomes obvious that something is amiss.

While it is not an actual acid test, looking at the damage one has done to themselves and others in pursuit of sexual activity is likely the best way to determine if one is addicted to sex. Frequent sexual activity can be perfectly healthy, but if pursuit of sex starts leading to bad decisions (that are known to be mistakes ahead of time, but ignored in pursuit of sex) or starts having noticeable consequences (that are also known ahead of time, but still ignored), then it is perhaps time to take a deeper look at one’s sexual activity. By and large, it depends on exactly how short sighted one can become while trying to have sex. If one is restraining oneself when they know pursuing sex would be a bad thing, they are likely either not addicted or high functioning addicts. If one is starting to make bad decisions hindered by their libido, they may well have a very serious problem.

Addiction to sexual activity is not quite as easily treated as addiction to substances, though many principles do remain the same. Ideally one should consult with a psychological or psychiatric professional once they realize that their pursuit of sexual activity has gone from pleasurable diversion to self-destructive habit. These professionals are trained to help people with a wide range of problems, including addictions. They can also be helpful in identifying whether one is merely addicted to sex or has a deeper, much more serious problem such as genuine nymphomania (a condition that is far less common, but also far more dangerous condition than most people believe). These professionals are also trained in getting people the treatment they need for these conditions.

Treatment tends to be the usual process of acknowledging the problem, followed by slowly but steadily learning the resist the urge to indulge in the addiction. Some types of addiction can benefit from the use of medications (particularly when the problem stems in part from biological causes), though most simply require the addict to learn how to control their urges. It is not an easy process by any stretch of the imagination, but it does get somewhat easier the more aware the addict is the damage their addiction has caused themselves and those around them.

If you live in the Dallas area, we recommend getting help for Sexual Addiction from: Sex Therapy by Vantage Point Dallas Counseling.

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Introduction to Psychotherapy: The Basics

Introduction to Psychotherapy

What is Psychotherapy really? Psychotherapy is the utilization of psychological techniques specifically when centered on typical personal interaction to assist a person in changing as well as overcoming challenges in preferred ways. Psychotherapy hopes to enhance a person’s well-being and mental health to solve or reduce problematic behaviors, convictions, emotions or thoughts. It also aims to enhance interaction with others as well as socialization skills.

Who can benefit from Psychotherapy?

Mental anxiety or stress is not easily visible, and as such, it may not be easily addressed. Psychotherapy focuses on healing the mind. Some may think that therapy is only meant for the mentally unstable people or those with emotional problems. That is not the case; therapy can be beneficial to anybody regardless of their mental or emotional status. Those who desire to enhance the quality of life and make a positive change can benefit. Psychotherapy helps one realize their life goals and equip them with skills to coexist better with other people as well as skills to tackle life problems.

The Psychotherapeutic Relationship:

The psychotherapist is tasked with establishing a relationship and environment where psychotherapeutic change can take place. He or she has to ascertain that psychotherapy is done in a secluded, comfortable and safe atmosphere. Psychotherapist ought to guarantee a certain level of confidentiality where the client is safe and confident that his secrets are kept. He should feel free to open up about everything in his or her life without the fear of a third person knowing his or her innermost secrets, fears or thoughts.

The psychotherapist shall then listen keenly to the client in an effort to assist them in identifying their objectives, aspirations, and wishes. It is with this psychotherapist’s active listening and participation that aids in creating the psychotherapeutic relationship which plays a key part in the therapy’s success.

Psychotherapeutic Ideas

A psychotherapist will work with the client depending on his expertise and the theory he chooses. Psychotherapy in itself is a process of trying to help a person lead a more fulfilling life by attempting to improve his or her self-esteem and self-confidence, resolving past issues that are haunting them, helping them build better relationship with their family, friends, colleagues and other people they are interacting with as well as gain skills to help them deal with their issues in future.

How Long Does a Session last and Duration of the Therapy

The session lasts for 50 to 60 minutes and is done in the privacy of the psychotherapist office. It involves one on one interaction between the client and the psychotherapist. Many people may want to see a therapist for a quick fix of their problems; however, the recommended time is at least 6 weeks.  Here is a therapist explaining what constitutes a good session.

When Does a Person Feel the Change

For those with deeply rooted problems or childhood issues, one may need extra sessions. Changes will also depend on an individual’s attitudes and motivation to change. A person who is more optimistic and shows a positive attitude is likely to feel better faster than someone who is not receptive to change.

It is always recommended to have an open mind when undergoing psychotherapy. Preconceived notions or anxiety may hinder the healing process. Psychotherapy may offer solutions to current issues; however, it is up to the person to effect the changes in their lives. A positive change in life in a process which requires patience and commitment. A patient ought to take necessary steps such as positively changing the thought patterns and lifestyle habits for the better. The process takes time, remember Rome was not built in a single day.

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What to Expect From Sex Therapy

What to Expect From Sex Therapy

Gathering the courage to attend your first session for sex therapy can be more than a little disconcerting.  Talking about your most private and personal aspects of your life with someone you’ve known less than 5 minutes is extremely daunting.  If you understand just how the therapeutic process works in may make the process a little easier and alleviate some of the fear you have.

What happens in Therapy?

Therapy is where you have a safe place and one of the roles of the therapist is to genuinely listen to what you have to say.  Another part of the responsibilities of a therapist is to work with you to get past pain and bad behaviour to discover what your underlying intentions are.  Sometime we’re unaware of the underlying causes of our bad behavior and therapy helps to discover them.  You and your therapist will explore issues such as trust, power and control, conflict, the ability to communicate and issues of desire.  It is through this exploration you will get to the heart of your issues.

Therapy isn’t a medical process nor is it necessarily about fixing your problems, though they follow the same process.  It a relationship between the therapist and yourself where the therapist will help you figure out some goals and put you on a path towards a more fulfilling sex life.  You need to understand that your therapist is not all knowing, nor perfect.  Your therapist has their own issues and a therapist learns through providing you therapy just as you do.

Telling Your Story

During therapy you will share your story with you therapist and they will want to understand how you view your problems.  Therapists shouldn’t judge you or your issues, that being said, it doesn’t mean they will approve of everything you say.  Their job is not to judge but to help you figure out what causes you to behave in a manner that hurts you and those around you.  Why are you making choices that go against what you believe to be moral or right?  Ultimately you’re there to help yourself have a healthy sexual relationship; the therapist is there to help you figure out how to get there.

If you have done therapy before, or have tried couples therapy with your spouse you’re going to find sex therapy a little different.  The questions will be more direct, and very few things are as complicated as sexual issues so don’t expect your problems to be solved overnight.  Your therapist is going to ask some pretty intrusive and direct questions and you may find that very uncomfortable particularly if you find sex hard to talk about.   This will ease as you get more comfortable working through your issues and start seeing the barriers that have kept you from having the sex life you want.

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